Monday, July 25, 2011

Where Have All The Good Guys Gone

Where have all the good guys gone?  Why are they so hard to find? 

Here’s a joke: What do Santa Clause, the Tooth Fairy and a romance novel’s alpha-male hero have in common?----They are all fictional.

Many novels feature an alpha-male type hero, and I must admit I like reading those books too, but let’s face it, that kind of hero isn’t the sort of guy you’d take home to mama.  He’s the type of guy you dream about, but know you’ll never meet.  Why? Because he doesn’t exist in real life.  Women wish he did, all muscle, brawn, compassion and tenderness, and sublime sexuality.  Perhaps that’s why romance books sell, but in actuality, females close their novels and go back to their boyfriends and husbands who are so far below the fictional bronzed Adonis she’s freshly read about, who I don’t need to remind you doesn’t exist.

What we need are more believable decent good guys in novels.  Stories with a believable hero who doesn’t let others walk on him?  A man who is compassionate and feels the need to relieve suffering, yet doesn’t like showing mushy emotions—but will at all the right moments.  A good guy who accepts help when he knows he’s in over his head and learns from his mistakes.  A man who would stop to help if you were stranded on the side of the road, and a good guy who is able to control his manly tendencies—not ruled by them.  Also, a man who is angered when those he loves are threatened or harmed and doesn’t have a problem defending himself in a fight.  And is handsome to boot!

I’m an author who writes about everyday good guys in extraordinary circumstances.  My fictional hero, Paul, from Scars of Defiance is one of them.  He’s inexperienced with life and girls, loves his mother, tries to be responsible, is compassionate, abhors mistreatment of women, learns from his mistakes, and doesn’t even think twice about putting his own life on the line for those he loves.  He’s all man with normal arousal, yet puts his own gratification on hold at a moment when the Bronzed Adonis wouldn’t have.  Paul’s example of a good man came from his father Zachary, and he from his father.  Paul will pass his good guy qualities down to his sons who are featured in The Dictator’s Daughter, book two in the “Scars” series.

I’m fortunate to have been married to a “Paul” for 22 wonderful years.  My good man is Larry.  He’s not perfect, but he’s a damn good man and a fantastic example to my son who is a good man too.  Goodness gets passed down from generation to generation, I know, I’ve seen it. 

What I’ve also witnessed are boys who haven’t had good examples in their lives rise up and become good men due to outside influences.  An example of this is a man I’ve known for fifteen years who grew up in an abusive home, yet mastered his temper and raised great kids to adulthood.  Two are men now and good men at that.  I don’t know what his driving force was exactly, but something or someone pushed him along a polar opposite path and he’s succeeded in life.

Where have all the good guys gone?  Nowhere, they’re right before our eyes, we only need to realize it.  Most men out there are good men with great qualities.  They don’t stack up very well to the alpha-male found in romance novels, nor should they.  They’re not perfect and they do make mistakes, but the same goes for most women.  Us women need to become aware of our significant others qualities and strengths and try to make an extra effort to show appreciation.  If the good man in your life is your father, tell him.  If it’s your son, tell him too.  It might be an uncle or brother or grandfather, all of which need to hear from the girls and women in their lives that they’re appreciated.

Maybe, just maybe the everyday good guy hero will become increasingly popular in the fiction world giving girls, who haven’t had a good male role model, a fresh type of hero to crave.

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Scars of Defiance review:  "I really didn't know what to expect when I started, but Lorena hooked me on the first page. The characters have depth, and the world she created has such texture that I even found myself thinking about it when I wasn't reading it." 5 stars from Carolyn Arnold-author of Ties That Bind

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I must admit, I have never been into romance novels but as I follow more and more authors it seems that maybe I have missed out on a few good books. I have a couple that I hope to check out soon. Your post did make me eager to find out more about these stories. I do appreciate that you emphasize guys that are more like the ones in real life. Don't get me wrong, I love the fantasy ones too!
I think there are good guys out there and I was lucky enough to marry one of them. In my opinion women must remember that men are every day people too and aren't perfect. ;)